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Unlocking Your Dyslexic Child's Confidence: The Power of Building Self-Trust


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As parents, we want our children to thrive and reach their full potential. This can be particularly heightened for those watching their child struggle with learning differences, specifically dyslexia, dysgraphia & dyscalculia.


One of the key factors that can help our children feel more confident is building self-trust. Self-trust is the belief in one's abilities, judgment, and worthiness.

Fostering self-trust in dyslexic children sets the stage for lifelong confidence, resilience, healthy relationships, and a growth mindset. By implementing these strategies, parents can empower their dyslexic children to thrive and reach their full potential.


Our simple and practical strategies can help you with building self-trust in your dyslexic child. These include:


  • Creating a safe environment for open communication.

  • Encouraging decision-making and celebrate effort and growth.

  • Providing opportunities for independence and model self-trust.

  • Journaling for self-reflection.

  • Goal-setting with achievable steps.

  • Positive affirmations to combat self-doubt.

  • Problem-solving scenarios to build confidence.

  • Providing unconditional love and acceptance.

  • Offering guidance but allow autonomy.

  • Being a supportive cheerleader and attentive listener.

  • Providing constructive feedback for growth.


The benefits of building self-trust in children


Children with a strong sense of self-trust experience numerous benefits in various areas of their lives. Firstly, self-trust boosts their self-esteem and self-confidence, two areas dyslexia impacts significantly. They start to believe in their abilities and have a positive self-image, which helps them excel not only academically but socially and emotionally. They are more likely to set more ambitious goals, put more effort into achieving them, and persist even when faced with setbacks.


Secondly, self-trust enables our children to make better decisions. When they trust themselves, they are more confident in their judgment and can make choices that align with their values and goals. They are less influenced by peer pressure and more likely to follow their instincts. This leads to a greater sense of autonomy and personal fulfilment.


Helping build self-trust in our children fosters healthy relationships. When children trust themselves, they are more likely to trust others and form deeper connections. They have the confidence to express their needs and boundaries, as well as the ability to empathize and understand others. This creates a positive social environment and enhances their overall well-being.


Signs of low self-trust in children


Recognizing the signs of low self-trust in your child is crucial. Some common indicators include:

  1. Lack of confidence: Children with low self-trust may doubt their abilities and hesitate to try new things. They may constantly seek reassurance and approval from others.

  2. Fear of failure: Children who lack self-trust may avoid taking risks and prefer to stay within their comfort zones. They may have a fear of making mistakes and worry about disappointing others.

  3. Difficulty making decisions: Children with low self-trust may struggle with decision-making. They may rely on others to choose for them and feel anxious about making the wrong decision.

  4. Perfectionism: Children who lack self-trust may have high expectations of themselves and strive for perfection. They may fear making mistakes and feel a constant need to be in control.

If you notice any of these signs in your child, addressing them and building their self-trust is essential.


How to foster self-trust in a child with dyslexia 


Building self-trust in your child requires patience, consistency, and a nurturing environment. Here are some strategies that may help foster self-trust:


  1. Create a safe and supportive environment: Provide a safe space for your child to express themselves without fear of judgment or criticism. Encourage open communication and listen actively to their thoughts and feelings.

  2. Encourage decision-making: Involve your child in age-appropriate decision-making processes. Start with simple choices and gradually increase the complexity as they grow older. Support their decisions and help them learn from both positive and learning outcomes.

  3. Celebrate effort and growth: Focus on your child's effort and progress rather than just the result. Praise their hard work, perseverance, and resilience. This helps them understand that mistakes and setbacks are a natural part of learning and growth.

  4. Provide opportunities for independence: Allow your child to take on age-appropriate responsibilities and tasks. This fosters a sense of competence and self-reliance, which in turn builds self-trust. Offer guidance and support when needed, but also encourage them to problem-solve and make decisions on their own.

  5. Model self-trust: Be a positive role model for your child by demonstrating self-trust in your life. Show them that you believe in yourself, make decisions based on your values, and embrace challenges as opportunities for growth.


Activities and exercises to promote self-trust in your child


There are various activities and exercises that can help promote self-trust in children. Here are a few ideas:


  1. Journaling: Encourage your child to keep a written or audio journal where they can reflect on their thoughts, feelings, and experiences. This helps them develop self-awareness and trust in their inner voice.

  2. Goal-setting: Help your child set achievable goals and create a plan to reach them. Break down larger goals into smaller, manageable steps. Celebrate their progress along the way and encourage them to stay committed.

  3. Positive affirmations: Teach your child positive affirmations they can repeat to themselves when facing challenges or self-doubt. For example, "I can do hard things", "I trust myself to make the right decisions", or "I am learning something new".

  4. Problem-solving scenarios: Present your child with hypothetical scenarios and ask them to come up with solutions. Encourage creativity and critical thinking, two strengths for many dyslexic children. This helps them build confidence in their problem-solving abilities.

Remember to tailor these activities to your child's age and developmental stage, and most importantly, have fun while fostering their self-trust!


The role of parents in building self-trust 


Parents play a vital role in building self-trust in their children. Here are some ways you as a parent can support and nurture your child's self-trust:


  1. Provide unconditional love and acceptance: Make sure your child knows that your love and acceptance are not contingent upon their achievements or behaviour. This creates a strong foundation of trust and security.

  2. Offer guidance, not control: Instead of making decisions for your child, guide them through the decision-making process. Encourage them to weigh the pros and cons, consider their values, and trust their instincts.

  3. Be a cheerleader: Celebrate your child's successes, no matter how small. Acknowledge their efforts and encourage them to keep trying despite failures. Let them know that you believe in them, that you trust them. 

  4. Listen attentively: When your child shares their thoughts, feelings, or concerns, listen attentively without judgment or interruption. This helps them feel heard and validated and builds trust in their voice.

  5. Provide constructive feedback: When offering feedback or criticism, focus on constructive ways to improve rather than pointing out flaws. Encourage them to learn from mistakes and see them as opportunities for growth.


By creating a supportive and trusting environment, parents can help their children develop a strong foundation of self-trust that will serve them well throughout their lives.


The lifelong impact of building self-trust & confidence in a dyslexic child


Building self-trust is an investment that pays off well into the adult years. It sets the stage for their overall development, well-being, and success. By fostering self-trust, parents empower their children to believe in themselves, make independent decisions, and overcome challenges with resilience. It helps them develop a positive self-image, healthy relationships, and a growth mindset.


As parents, we have the power to help unlock our children's confidence by building their self-trust. Through understanding, support, and meaningful activities, we can help them navigate life's ups and downs with confidence and trust in their abilities. So, let's embark on this journey together and watch our children flourish.


You've got this! 

B


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Written by Bernadette Haigh
Bernadette Haigh is the Founder of Daring Dyslexic and host of the Doing Dyslexia Differently Podcast. She is on a mission to redefine what it means to grow up with dyslexia. Bernadette offers a fresh and unique perspective by focusing on mindset, confidence, and self-esteem – areas she knows all too well impact a person's potential long after conquering their academic challenges. You can find Bernadette on Instagram, LinkedIn, Youtube and her podcast on Spotify, and other great players.

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